Cooking dinner for friends can be a perilous thing these days. Some people are vegetarian (or worse, vegan). Some people are wheat intolerant, or lactose intolerant. Some people only eat white meat, or only eat fish. Some people will die if they eat crustaceans or nuts. And then there are just the weird things that people hate. There are the obvious, common ones – brussel sprouts, broccoli – and then there are a whole host of random things people seem to dislike for no apparent reason. In my time I have known people who don’t like peas, pumpkin, cauliflower cheese, fruit, hot custard (but not cold custard), pink fish (but not white fish), rice (yes, really – they eat curry and chinese with chips!), tomatoes, salad, eggs, the list goes on and on.
Now I will freely admit there are some things I am not a massive fan of – coriander and capsicum being two of them. But I will cook with these things when a recipe calls for them, and in moderation they’re fine. I can categorically say I don’t like coffee, because I have tried to drink it a hundred times, and every single time I screw up my face and wonder how on earth people can enjoy the stuff – but I accept that they do. I also accept that sometimes people don’t like things because they have an allergic reaction to them, or because it is a strong and aquired taste, like vegemite, or Dr Pepper. But most of the time the food-hates people have are for very basic food items, and they stem from childhood. It is usually something you were forced to eat as a kid, and decided you didn’t like. And for the most part, people haven’t even tried to eat it again since.
However, this unreasonable aversion can be problematic as a grown-up. I have to say, I find it somewhat unattractive when I go out to dinner with a guy who won’t eat vegetables, or has a strange aversion to rice (frankly, order chips with your curry and I’m out the door). Or when he won’t drink wine. A beer with a pub meal is fine, but at a nice restaurant, seriously, drink a glass of wine! And women are not exempt from this – and can be far more annoying. I once sat next to a woman who ordered a whole fish and then sent it back because it had a head and scales on it! Jesus lady! Why order a “whole fish” then? (But annoyingly fussy women are almost another post entirely.)
Basically, what I really want to do today is encourage you to at least try something you think you hate. Just give it a go! There are countless things I used to hate that I actually really like now. Here are some of them:
Curry.
When my Mum used to make chicken tikka drumsticks, I used to roll my eyes and say, “Oh yuck. I hate that!”. Even in my early twenties, when my friends suggested we go to an Indian restaurant I would always say I didn’t like it, and persuade them to go somewhere else. It may be because I was (and am still) not very good with really spicy food. I would have flashbacks to the one time I had Indian as a kid, and spent the meal suffering from a burning mouth, glugging down copious amounts of milk to put out the fire.
But when I was about 23, and living in London, I was going out with an English musician. We were having a lazy winter day in bed, and I said to him, “We should go out for dinner… If you could have anything in the world right now, what would it be?”. “Curry” he replied. I couldn’t argue with that. So we braved the January weather, and went to a lovely Indian restaurant near my place, in St Katherine’s Dock. I remember I had a mild prawn curry, and it was damn straight amazing. In one meal, I was completely converted.
I spent the next few months travelling around the UK, and in every town I would find a little Indian place, and order popadoms with chutney, lamb tikka massala and pilau rice. I had it in Bath, Okehampton, Penzance, Oxford, Stratford, Chester, Edinburgh, Fort William and Oban. And to this day it is still what I order whenever I have curry, and I would rate it as one of my all time favourite meals. A long way from the little girl who hated curry.
Avocado.
I know it’s favourite for many people, but to be honest I struggled with avocado for a long time. I think it’s partly the texture, it just felt funny in my mouth. In short, it just didn’t float my boat. But over the years the green squishy fruit has won me over. I think this is in part due to an explosion of love for mexican food, with guacamole being an integral part of the cuisine.
In fact, I can safely say that I had never actually bought an avocado for personal consumption until I decided to make my own guacamole a couple of years ago. I accidently forgot to check for ripeness, and ended up buying a hard avocado, which was fairly difficult to mash into guac, I can tell you!
Now I quite like a bit of avo in a salad, or on a sandwich. I’m not likely to just sit there eating one with a spoon, and I do think it’s massively overused in sushi handrolls, but I’m definitely on board the avocado boat these days.
Chili.
As previously mentioned, I struggle with spicy food. And it’s really not something I want to have an issue with, as so many great cuisines have a tendency to be spicy – Indian, Mexican, Thai, Korean, Jamaican etc. I also used to get served spicy food when I went round to other people’s houses, and it was always very embarrassing when I couldn’t eat it. A particular memory of being served an unbelievably spicy stir fry by a friend’s Dad sticks in my mind. He was quite offended when I could only eat about three mouthfuls! The rest of the meal went downhill from there.
As a result of meals like this I used to just not eat chili full stop, but now I know I would be missing out on some of the best food in the world if I threw the spice out with the satay. So I mostly just order the milder dishes, or ask for it no to be too hot – and by trying to add little bits into my food, now I can certainly handle a lot more than I used to be able to.
I have noticed that Australians are massive fans of spice, and seem to have a higher threshold when it comes to spice levels than say the English. Despite their love of curry, in particular the vindaloo, in England I didn’t usually have to enquire about the heat of a chili con carne, or thai green curry, knowing I could usually take it. In Australia I have to be a lot more cautious, and read menus very carefully for the mention of chili. I get very disappointed when I order a meal I’m really looking forward to eating, and then I can’t because it’s just too hot. But I will cook with chili now, and that way I know how much is going in, and I can keep it mild, but tasty. I usually chop up the rest of the chili and let it sit in some olive oil so that might spice loving guests can give their meals as much heat as they want.
There are lots more too (I mean, I remember when I didn’t even like beer or wine – can you imagine?) but we don’t want to be here all day. I guess in the end I’m just saying, don’t be a hater. You might have only not liked something because of the way your Mum cooked it, or it was served at school camp. Your palate will have matured, and you may find cooked in a certain way, something you hate could become something you love. Life (and food) should be full of adventure. And you never know, until you try.
I want to know what food you hate? Why do you think you hate it? Would you be prepared to give it another go?


















